Maybe this could
help…
In a 2014 study dubbed “The iPhone Effect,” researchers paired up 200
participants and invited them to sit down in a coffee shop and chat with each
other for about ten minutes. Research assistants observed the conversations
from a distance and paid special attention to whether a mobile device was used,
touched, or placed on the table during the conversation. When the time was up,
participants were asked to respond to a series of questions designed to measure
feelings of connection, empathic concern, and the like. These included, “To
what extent did your conversation partner make an effort to understand your
thoughts and feelings?” and “I felt I could really trust my conversation
partner.” The results? If either participant pulled their phone out or placed
it on the table, the quality of the conversation was rated to be less
fulfilling compared to conversations that took place in the absence of mobile
devices. ”Even when they are not in active use or buzzing, beeping, ringing, or
flashing, [digital devices] are representative of people’s wider social
network,” the researchers note. “In their presence, people have the constant
urge to seek out information, check for communication, and direct their
thoughts to other people and worlds.”
How about you show
your honey you love her by putting away the phone? It’s not just a good way for
you to show love to your spouse, but for your children and your friends.
Attention is a way to show love. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Rings and other
jewels are not gifts, but apologies for gifts. The only gift is a portion of
thyself”.
The best gift may not be what you got her but what you took
away.
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